Tamar, Daughter of King David (Day 5)


Today’s Reading: 2 Samuel 13:1-2
No! She said, Dont force me to do such a degrading thing! That’s awful! How could I ever hold up my head in public again?


The words rings with chilling horror in the ears of women. It conjures up thoughts of physical pain, humiliation, despair and rejection. How much more so when the assailant is a family member. Yet this was the lot of the beautiful Tamar. And for her, pain was heaped upon pain as first her father, King David, and then her brother Absalom refused to do anything about it. No longer could she look forward with joyful anticipation to being a wife and mother. Her lot was now to live in her brother Absalom’s house, ‘sad and lonely.’
To our eternal shame, the horror faced by Tamar is faced by women worldwide on a daily basis. Rape is used to control, punish, humiliate, and as a ‘weapon’ of war. The effects are long lasting, influencing every relationship the woman has from then on. They are commonly made more painful by the fact that many are ready to blame her rather than see her as the victim.
Society offers help but the ultimate hope lies in the love and acceptance offered by God. He alone understands. He alone can provide the comfort that soothes the deepest hurt.

His presence alone fills the yawning chasm of loneliness and detachment.

What is even more amazing is that he offers recreation in Christ. Anyone who ‘is in Christ is a new creation, the old has gone, the new has come!’ Easy? No, not ever; but, by faith, a glorious reality for those who will take God at his Word.

Lessons Learnt

There are a lot of Tamar out there somewhere. Who might have even gone through worst things than Tamar herself. You are hurting, the memories are fresh and it seems it can never go away. This is painful and could even create a lasting hatred in the way we see things completely.
All the words in Oxford Dictionary can never take the pain away.

The pain of rejection
The pain of shame
The pain of depression
The pain of worthlessness
The pain of hatred
The pain of suicide
The pain of solitude
The pain of betrayal
The pain of anger
The pain of loneliness

All wrapped in one woman…
I just cant fathom this, no matter how hard I try to. I can’t say I have the magic words to soothe all the pain away or to make you feel better but I know of a man who already took all this away and nailed it on the cross with him, never to be seen again. That man is Jesus and he has promised to fight for you, he has promised to defend you and to hold you in his arms were you would find peace and joy again. He has promised to strip you of all the pain that turns your heart dark.
Just as he was betrayed and humiliated, he was stripped of his garments completely naked, he was spat upon, mocked and abused, he was beaten with cords and whips that tore his skin, that pain he already carried with him on the cross and when he pronounced the words “It is finished” he had you in mind, he was thinking of you the whole time, he was praying for you the whole time and he has this to say to you that is hurting from the pain of yesterday He wants you to give it all to him and lay all your troubles on his feet. He wants you to cry as hard as want to because his hands will be so soft as to wipe all your tears away.

Matthew 11: 28-30
“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”

He wants to change that mess into your message…

A message of redemption
A message of forgiveness
A message of love and peace
A message of happiness
A message to bring you long life
A message of freedom

All these he is willing to give to you if only you will come to him and lay it all at his feet.

Thanks a lot lovelies for staying with me through to the end of this study, I really hope you were blessed by it.


11 thoughts on “Tamar, Daughter of King David (Day 5)

  1. Hi Judith,

    Indeed, there are many Tamars who are suffering with pain and shame from having their dignity trampled on so unfairly. Their wounds are made even more painful when the blame is placed squarely at their own feet rather than at the feet of the rapist.

    Thank you for sharing this.

    Have a lovely weekend.


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